Adult children aren’t immune from the emotional trauma of divorce — far, far from it. In many ways, dealing with a parent’s divorce as an adult can be just as messy, gut-wrenching and earth-shattering (and sometimes, even more so) as dealing with divorce as a child.
While adults are less likely to feel the crushing sense of guilt that so many younger children of divorce experience, they’re often acutely aware — too aware — of all the gory details of the split itself. Who hates whom. Who’s sleeping with other people. Who’s coping poorly, who didn’t want to stay married, who never wanted to get married in the first place. This isn’t exactly a fun or healthy place to be, to say the least.
Divorced parents of adult children also tend to lean on their kids for emotional support, which, while understandable (especially if parents are close with their children), creates a lot of undue stress and anxiety for everyone involved. This blurring of boundaries can lead to adult children taking sides in the divorce, which only further divides families.