No parent knows exactly what they’re doing. Sure, we all try to follow our instincts, heart and know-how, and sometimes everything works out well, but other times, it can backfire. All of us parents are just feeling our way through … now if only someone had warned us about this the first day we held our babies in our arms. At least then we’d know it’s normal, and that other parents feel this way, too.
In her piece “The Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto” on HuffPost, Brené Brown, research professor, author and mom of two, explained how this feels.
“When we obsess over our parenting choices to the extent that most of us do, and then see someone else making different choices, we often perceive that difference as direct criticism of how we are parenting," she says. "Ironically, parenting is a shame and judgment minefield precisely because most of us are wading through uncertainty and self-doubt when it comes to raising our children."