Moving through a separation is an immensely stressful time. You’re finding a new way of life, grieving the loss of your family as you know it, and trying to be present for your kids all at the same time. It’s enough pressure to make anyone lose their cool.
But allowing your stress to bubble over, so much that the kids can feel it from you, can be problematic. Practice taking care of yourself, whether it’s through exercise, eating well, talk therapy, or making time with friends.
Lee says that kind of self-care was crucial in the early days of separation.
“My family lives a world away and I quickly learned that I had to schedule time with other people during holidays when I was alone," she said. "Being proactive about arranging lunch with a friend on Easter Sunday might sound like you’re a bit of a loser but it beats spending the day crying on the couch.”
If you forget to care for yourself, your children are going to feel your angst, so even when it feels like there is never enough time in the day, remember to make yourself a priority. Because when you you take care of yourself, everyone benefits.