Katie Ziskind, a family therapist based in Connecticut, says couples should discuss the tough topics before expanding their families.
"Before having kids, couples need to consider religion, family background, finances, parenting styles, gender and family culture. If a child is transgender or gay, how would each person react?" she says. "In my family therapy practice, I often see divorces happen because one parent is accepting and affirming to their transgender child, while the other biological parent is shaming the child and in denial."
While you and your partner might not agree on how you would react to a particular life event, it's good to figure out how you'll communicate and navigate tough situations before you have children.
"It is really important to talk openly about these things, so everyone is on the same page. Build a stable relationship before having children. Develop strong lines of communication," Ziskind says. "If you still get into vicious yelling battles with your partner, you both would benefit from waiting to have a child after seeking counseling. Any frustration you have with your partner will only get bigger when you have kiddos."