No matter how you spin it, going through a divorce just plain sucks. Even in the best of circumstances — i.e., ex-spouses that are committed to getting along, financially stable on both sides and able to introduce big changes smoothly — the end of a marriage can be challenging in a variety of ways. For most parents, the hardest part is wondering how it will affect their kids.
Whether they’re toddlers or 20, the children of divorce likely have plenty of emotions tied up in the end of their family as they knew it. Luckily, there’s tons of research on the subject as well as anecdotal advice from other parents who’ve been there and made it to the other side with everyone (mostly) unscathed. When it comes to making a divorce easier on the kids, there are lots of ways you can soften the blow — here are 14 to get you started.