Kathie Moehlig says the clues that her son, who was assigned female at birth (AFAB), was transgender were there all along — though the pieces of the puzzle fit together more easily in retrospect. At 18 months old, she remembers, he’d take off dresses — though wasn’t similarly inspired to disrobe when clothed in pants.
“At three years old, the teacher would say, ‘Okay, boys, get your buckets,’ and my son would go get his bucket and the girls would say, ‘No, you’re a girl!’” she says.
Years later, when a friend was going through chemo, he and some others shaved their heads in solidarity. “I watched my child watching herself as her head was shaved and I thought, this is not the typical response of a female — they’re not going to sit taller and have a sparkle in their eye that wasn’t there before,” she says.
It was as though he’d come home. Her son transitioned six years ago, and Moehlig subsequently founded TransFamily Support Services, an organization that supports trans youth and their families.