From the start of our relationship, I made it clear (and he did too) that my career is a priority for me (and his for him) so we entered into our marriage with that mutual understanding.
Of course, "equality" is strange to measure when it comes to parenting, marriage, and running a household, but we do make big efforts to share responsibility. This includes nurturing ourselves, our marriage, our kids, their education, household operations, and personal finances.
Some specific examples of this: Ari does the laundry and cleans the kitchen after meals, while I make sure we have food in the house and do most of the cooking. He drives the process of managing our personal finances and bank account, and we make all the key decisions together. I am the primary organizer for kids’ activities and also working with our nanny, but we make all those decisions together too.
The "equality" is more about the intention versus time spent. While you're "in it" sometimes, it's hard to appreciate what your partner does. One life coach that I had, Johanna Bayer, suggested that we swap roles for awhile — it's a sure and quick way to appreciate your partner for all that they do!