Today’s definition of "discipline" has evolved beyond shaming, threats and even physical punishment. Whether your parenting approach is more about natural consequences, “time-ins,” time-outs or treating behavior problems as a plea for more connection, discipline’s contemporary applications have more to do with guidance than with punishment. That means crafting healthy boundaries, teaching kids how to treat others, and instilling values like honesty, responsibility, cooperation and caring.
Bonnie Ocampo, a preschool teacher in San Diego, shares that, “the behaviors that indicate missing ‘discipline’ or boundaries vary a ton depending on the age. Hitting, for instance, is pretty OK in a 2-year-old,” she says, but not so much in an older child.
As kids develop, what we expect from them changes. Thus, their boundaries should change, too. FamilyMinded talked to parents, teachers and experts to ascertain the most common signs that kids need better discipline — as well as tips on what to do about it — from age two onward. Do your kids happen to demonstrate any of these?