When James Sexton, a Manhattan divorce lawyer and author of “If You're In My Office, It's Already Too Late,” visited a friend who had recently gone through an ugly divorce, his friend was living in a small, spare, bachelor-like space — sans the lava lamp.
It was nothing much to speak of, but there was a dedicated room for his daughter, who the man saw every other weekend. And there were the books the man loved to read. He had space to be a dad — and space to be himself. Sexton, himself a father of two in an unhappy marriage, thought to himself, this guy’s onto something.
It’s not an uncommon scenario. Especially with the advent of the so-called happy divorce and civil co-parenting, the divorced life can be, oddly, the envy of beleaguered parents everywhere. And without minimizing the real emotional heartaches and difficulties of divorce, for all involved, there are things every parent can learn from those who have called it quits.