“‘Cause you’re hot then you’re cold. You’re yes then you’re no.” We all know the lyrics to Katy Perry’s “Hot N Cold” because it’s an all-too-common tale — one minute they love you, the next, they’re indifferent.
Generally speaking, this is a sign of someone playing games. It’s a way to keep you off balance. But someone who truly loves you won’t subject you to this emotional rollercoaster ride.
In a mature, healthy relationship, it’s normal for relationships to go through ups and downs, but it’s not normal for you to never know where you stand. A good test is to ask yourself if you can rely on the other person. If the answer is no at the beginning of the relationship, it won’t improve down the line.